A form of Japanese pottery called Kintsugi, uses gold dust to repair broken pottery. Often the finished piece has more character and charm when attention is given to the flaws. I like this because it shows us that our flaws actually created our unique beauty. Instead of listening to society's idea of how we should look, what if we could embrace our uniqueness instead?
I’d like to offer you 5 simple ways to celebrate your imperfections and appreciate your own unique beauty.
1) First, stop calling them imperfections or flaws. Your words have a lot of power. Instead call them your charming qualities or quirks. Besides how boring would we be if we were all exactly the same? Your uniqueness is a gift and it's more of a gift when you can appreciate it too.
2) Don't worry about what others think about you. Once you realize that both compliments and negative comments are judgements, it is easier to realize that others' opinions are ever changing and shouldn't be what we base our self worth on.
3) I love this advice from Brene Brown. Go to bed at night thinking "Yes, I am sometimes afraid, but I am also brave. And, yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable, but that doesn't change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging."
4) Change your focus to things that you are grateful for instead. When you realize all the the good things in your life that you have, it's easier to see that your flaws don't have to negatively impact your life.
5) My favourite....turn it into a little research project. Find examples online of people who have used what you consider to be a flaw and have turned it into a positive in their lives.
One last thought. I love these lines from Leonard Cohen's song Anthem.
Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in.