Two Simple Stress Relieving Tips You Can Use in Seconds

Ah stress…it can make us so…stressed!

 

I’ve been in a really calm space this entire month and I attribute that to just a couple of daily rituals that you can use to reduce stress and to easily add more calm and flow into your day too.

 

The great thing is these are so quick and easy that you can use the simplest version of them absolutely anywhere and at any time. I know that not everyone is as lucky as I am to have fantastic memories of holidays with family like I do.  So if the upcoming holidays are stressing you out already, try one or more of the examples I am sharing with you to add these two things into your day.

 

I’m going to skip all of the symptoms and issues that stress can cause us mentally, physically and in our relationships at home and at work because if you suffer from stress, I think you are well aware of the disabling effects that stress can have in your daily life. Let’s change that now.

 

My two tips are: using sounds and symbols.

I have a recording of a specific frequency that I use when I have a ‘regular’ headache. It’s a very intense sound but it often helps me. While there are different views on which sounds are the most healing, if you find sounds or frequencies that work for you – use them without judging whether or not they are the right frequency.

Some examples of sounds you can use include:

Just hum!

You can do this quietly anywhere or as loudly as you like. You can hum while walking or even at the office. It is one way of self soothing that vibrates through your whole body and helps to relieve tension and stress.

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Tibetan and crystal singing bowls, along with gongs, bells and chimes.

I have found in my Shamanic Sound Healing workshops that the Tibetan bowls tend to create grounding and feeling more centred while the crystal bowls can a deep feeling of calm  as well as releasing body discomforts. Both sound great, but in the workshops we have moved to using only crystal bowls because of the powerful stress release and feelings of calmness that they can bring, especially in combination with mantras. The most common feedback I receive in the days following the workshops is that the crystal bowls helped to reduce anxiety and helped people to sleep really well.

Music that makes you feel good, no matter what type or genre of music it is.

While Mozart, flute music, frequencies or devotional music are perhaps the best known sounds that you’ve heard of to release stress, Rock and Pop can be even more effective. When you rock out, you can rock your stress out too. If you add in body movements, the stress can leave the body even faster.

The sounds of nature.

Whether you use recordings of birds, waterfalls or cats purring, or step outside and experience them firsthand, when you put your focus on the sounds of nature, healing and stress relief is often a quick and natural response from your body.

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The second of the two main methods is to use symbols.

Using symbols to create change might be something you aren’t as familiar with. If you’ve studied Reiki, then you’ll be familiar the many uses for the Cho Ku Rei symbol. Christianity has its cross, scientists use alchemical symbols and even businesses use symbols in mind mapping charts for more productivity. HINT: Mind Mapping charts aren’t just for business, use them to create a new vision for your body and life too!

If you’ve never heard of using a symbol for relieving stress before, let me introduce you to two of those methods today.

Although I create some fairly intricate symbols of my own and use some simple ones too, I find that tracing a figure 8 in the air or drawing it on paper and tracing it over and over can have a calming effect.
sacred geometry infinity sign

 

When you draw it in the air with intention, you can imagine sending love and kindness out to a person, place or situation that has been causing you stress, and then receiving love and kindness in return in an infinite (infinity symbol) loop. Adding the body, by using your hand or whole arm to draw the symbol in the air, while repeating a word like Peace or Shanti (Sanskrit for peace), adds to the release of stress.

I like to do this on paper too as a form of meditation and also because drawing symbols on paper creates changes in the energy of your environment. You can see examples of this in the changes in the environment in and around crop circles.

Surprised?

The geometry contained in the circles helps the crops to grow better possibly due to: the frequency created by the symbols, location over ley lines, electromagnetic effects and more. Where do they come from? I’d prefer not to guess and to just enjoy them without any stories attached as the effect is the same whether they are man made or their source is unknown.

 

 

There are also symbols that follow the energy of the body’s organs, which is a science called Biogeometry. I have a book filled with those symbols in addition to  using my own to make my body’s systems function better.   Since my levels of stress are very low, I can see how sounds and symbols create change on a daily basis.

So pick a sound or a symbol and see how you can lower your levels of stress quickly anytime you need to, starting today.

BONUS TIP:

The colour blue can relieve stress just by looking at it.

You’ll find a few pictures with the colour blue in this post.

 

You’re invited!

Explore one of the suggestions in this post. If you would like to have your own crystal singing bowl, I can have one shipped to you directly from the manufacturer. This is a great chance to buy from someone (me!) who is a certified Sound Healer. I’ll be adding bowls to my shop soon.

One Choice That Creates A Focus In Your Day

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Are you in control of your day or do you ever find your day gets away from you and yougo to bed exhausted and wondering why your To Do list never gets done?

Or maybe your day gets off to a great start but by the afternoon you find it harder to do the things that you were so excited about doing the night before. At times you may feel confused about the best way to schedule your day in the first place.

There’s one thing you might be doing and by changing it, you can change your whole day.

If you check social media or your emails first thing in the morning or look after other people first in some way, it can result in decision fatigue and you’ll also be starting your day filled with other peoples thoughts, feelings, emotions and agendas.

Is there a better way to start your day?

Some people will suggest you start it the night before by writing down a To Do list. Unless your To Do list is leading you to something bigger that really lights you up, then you could be just using each check mark on it to give yourself a false sense of accomplishment each day. Yikes! Maybe To Do lists need a little help.

morning pages stream of consciousness writing to do lists rituals

Would you be willing to start each day with a couple of expansive questions and then taking 5 minutes to write down your answers to see how much change that can create instead?

Should you journal?

I know many people who use ‘stream of consciousness’ writing or ‘Morning Pages’ or ‘journaling’ but this question and answer method can be more powerful than any of that.

You are directing your consciousness and your thoughts and your awareness with a question. If you just start writing with no goal in mind, your brain could come up with endless nonsense that really doesn’t change the course of your day at all.

 

There are some questions you can use to get focused on your visions and desires as a different way to start your day. When answering these questions (or some of your own), try to stay out of any judgement about whether or not they are possible.

 

Would you be a little tiny bit willing to believe that you are beginning to write new things into your reality through the power of words made solid on paper? Would you be willing to try it from a place of fun and childlike wonder and see how your day goes?

Here are some questions to get you started:

What experiences would really make me smile today?
What would make me feel healthy today?
What activities could allow me to see more beauty in my life today?

After you have written down your answers, even just for five minutes, allow those to guide your actions. So if you have a To Do list, are there actions on there that are a total mismatch to what you wrote down that you desired to see in your life? Be willing to let them go and watch your day unfold with energy and focus and from your true desires.

Why does this work?

There are a few reasons. Writing things down makes them more real. It helps us to see the possibility better when it is written down instead of typing it onto a computer in ‘virtual’ world. Also when we add the wisdom of our body into our day, it changes things. So as our hands write the words and our eyes see them, it creates a mind body connection that makes it all the more real.  It also gives our mind something to focus on and to look for during the day so it is one way to begin to write your visions into your reality.  I’ll share more in another post.

 

Are You Rewriting History Using Social Media?

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We are all reporters now

At this point in time we may be rewriting history by spreading nonsense as fact. The more it spreads, the more it will be seen as the truth. What are you creating with your contributions?

 social media sharing contributor

 

We are unpaid reporters who see the world in our own unique way. It’s awesome that we can write or share whatever we are most passionate about. Often a headline will grab our attention and we’ll share the story or comment on it, without even reading it. It’s quick and easy; a stress reliever and a fun way to socialize on social media. Could it also have unforeseen consequences?

 

It can be difficult in these social media obsessed times to step away from the habit of sharing drama and nonsense in return for likes, shares, comments and hearts.  

 

Is our ego leading us as we seek validation and attention when we share emotionally charged but untrue stories as factual?  It’s a quick pick me up when we are feeling lonely or bored or sad.  And it can be addicting.

 

It doesn’t matter if it’s not true, it COULD BE true!

 

Are you sharing untrue stories because you agree with the message in the story? Then share a fable, not an article that claims to be the truth. Sharing sensationalized stories can also lead to vilifying the innocent or creating fear and making it look like bad things in the world are much more common than they really are.  Is this what you want to create now and into your future or rewrite into history?

Social Media sharing zen dude

 

Es Tu, Huffington Post?

When the Huffington Post began the practice of allowing anyone to post to their blog section early this year with no need for editorial approval, the risks of sharing an article containing inaccurate information increased.  Sharing unread articles on social media that appear to be coming from legitimate sources can cause untruth to spread quickly as it takes just a second to click ‘share’ on an article with a tantalizing headline. 

 

Thankfully applications to the ‘Contributor Platform’ on Huffington Post closed in October of 2016.  Those who got in before its closure are free to post whatever they want without anyone checking their articles first so be aware of this. For those who joined this platform, they simply upload their article and within minutes can add one of those ‘As Seen On Huffington Post’ badges to their website as their article appears automatically.

 

While this is ego gratification at its best, what is the true cost? And how much credibility do the ‘real’ writers and reporters on Huffington Post now lose when this platform has the potential to be abused by those who previously couldn’t get their articles published?

 

How can we create to positive change?

 

On the flip side, as of November 2016, Google and Facebook have committed to banning fake news websites from accessing their ad services. Perhaps this change will cause the fake news to appear less often so that it is harder to share. But we still need to take each article that we see online with a grain of salt. Each of us has a responsibility to the history and the future we are creating with each tap of the keyboard.

 

What are some steps you can take to be a valued contributor?

 

  • If you’re looking for a way to contribute your unique voice on social media, then be willing to spend the time to read an article instead of just reading the headline. You’ll learn more and get a better handle on whether or the not story is legitimate and worth sharing. And tell people why you are sharing it too along with your unique views on the story.

 

  • Take a second and see if others are reporting the story as true or false. Snopes.com is one place to check. But don’t rely on just one source. Have a peek around the Internet.

 

  • Do a gut check. Before sharing, ask yourself a couple of questions. Does this story feel true? What am I creating more of in the world by sharing it? Is that what I really want to create?

 

  • And finally be willing to see what your online contributions are bringing to the world. Are you sharing to feel better about yourself? If so, would you be willing to feel better by infusing your life with people who enjoy your company and with things that make you smile, laugh and expand your awareness? And would you be willing to see yourself as amazing already?

If we all created and shared stories from that space, what do you think we could collectively create in the world? Wanna find out?

Join me on Instagram,for an infusion of high vibes for your #MindBodyBiz.

6 Vital Steps For Holding Space Using The Power Of Sacred Geometry

Holding Space

Today.  This is about you.Holding Space

I know you love holding space for your family, friends, in a relationship or for your clients.
Just for today, would you be willing to hold space for yourself first?
What if I told you that holding space for yourself first using the power of sacred geometry could exponentialize your results for yourself and others too?
That sounds like a win win situation doesn’t it?

 

What is holding space?

A simple definition is being completely focused and present while providing a space for change that feels safe and is without judgement or ego for the highest potential of the person.

 

Why would you want to hold space for yourself?

When you hold an energetic space for yourself, you can receive knowledge, information and support in the form of thoughts, feelings, emotions, physical sensations, visions, sounds and downloads. It is within this space that you can set a specific intention or ask a specific question and allow the next steps, the manifestations and the answers to fall into place with more ease.

This quiet, peaceful space that you create can allow you to connect to your truest desires and the highest vision of yourself and your life so that you can enjoy them sooner. You may also see new possibilities that exist that you couldn’t see before

Why add Sacred Geometry and What Is It Anyway??

Sacred geometry for holding space allows for more growth and movement as these things follow geometric shapes. It also allows you to work with the wholeness of geometry to create harmony and balance and to begin to see past the illusions of separateness, which can cause fear and a feeling of abandonment.

We’ll focus on the five platonic solids. Professor Robert Moon demonstrated that all of the elements contained in the Periodic Table are made up of one of the five platonic solids.There are currently 118 elements in the table. All of them are based on these five 3 dimensional forms. They are the: tetrahedron, hexahedron, octahedron, dodecahedron, and icosahedron.

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Creating a space of wholeness allows us to better connect to and understand that we are both masculine and feminine energies, and left brain and right brain energies. When we allow for wholeness we can be in balance and find a state of flow more easily.

 

Okay So How Do I Do It? And Can We Please Keep It Simple?

First, choose the sacred shape that you want to work with. Let’s start with the tetrahedron. This is a 3 dimensional triangular pyramid with four faces. It is the shape of the carbon atom and is a building block for life. It can be used to bring order to chaos and create structure and systems. This would be a great geometric shape to envision if you are feeling discombobulated and would like to bring more order to your life.

Next, close your eyes and imagine that you are inside this tetrahedron. You can adjust the size as needed as you add and release energies and choose a colour too. Take a few deep breaths. If you’d like to listen to healing frequencies or meditative type music to help calm your mind, you may do that. Allow the shape to form and to support you and the dimensions of thoughts, emotions, spirituality, physicality and add in the dimension of miracles too.

Then set an intention. Why are you creating this space? What are you seeking to change or to create? With the tetrahedron you could set the intention to have more structure in your day so that you can accomplish all the things on your to do list with more ease. You can choose huge intentions too and ask for the right people to show up at the right time and the right price to help you create the systems that will help your business run smoothly.

With your intention set, notice where you might be resisting, denying or refusing to accept or acknowledge any parts of you. Send AND receive love, gratitude, blessings and forgiveness to all of these places. You are holding a safe place for release, healing and change to occur. Start with love and only move to gratitude once you’ve felt a change or shift in the places or situations that you have sent this love to. Once you have filled the areas with love, also allow yourself to receive love from outside this held space.
Also allow the tetrahedron or shape you have chosen to grow bigger. But remember, this space is just for you today so do keep it contained, focused and concentrated. If you continue to imagine or picture the shape, it will help you to hold this powerful space for change. Move on to gratitude and follow the same steps and continue with onto blessings and forgiveness.

This space is for releasing as well as receiving. You may sense thoughts, feelings or emotions in your space that are not you or are leftover beliefs or values that were projected onto you. These may also include cellular memories, karmic and ancestral memories and anything else that is no longer for your highest potential or good. Release it all from this space with the intention that it is permanently and completely released and replaced with the higher energies and frequencies that you need to live the highest expression of the intention that you set at the beginning. Ask to receive it all now in whatever ways are best for you.

 

 

Why The Week Of February 8th Can Be Your New Beginning

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I’ve been researching February’s energies and I’ve discovered something that no one else has pointed out yet.  And I believe it will give you a huge advantage to know this NOW as the week of February 8th is about to begin.

 

I’d like to give you a simple explanation about what this advantage is instead of attempting to teach you hours of material that you don’t need to learn to benefit from this information. The new moon is great for new beginnings and it aligns with the Chinese New Year for a double boost to support you in moving ahead with any part of your life now.

 

ALSO something very cool happens this week in regards to a phenomenon known as the Void Of Course moon. The moon moves through the 12 signs of the zodiac every month, so it tends to spend 2-3 days in each sign. As it is moving out of one sign and before it enters the next sign, that period of time is called Void of Course. The moon isn’t in a void nor an empty space, but this time is the least supportive time to begin something new or to ask for things that you want a Yes answer to.

 

Normally a Void of Course period lasts from a few hours to a couple of days and it occurs every two to three days.

 

But this week is different!!

 

There is really only ONE period of time this week that will affect those in the Western Hemisphere and that is at the exact moment of the new moon.

 

This happens at 9:39 a.m. EST Monday and it lasts until Tuesday morning at 3:31 a.m. EST.

After that it is smoooooth sailing for the rest of the week! If you are on a better schedule than I am, you’ll be snoozing during the other two super short periods when the moon is Void Of Course this week. The next one occurs on Wednesday evening at 11:25 p.m. and ends on Thursday morning at 4:55 a.m. The last one begins early Saturday morning at 5:32 a.m. and ends just an hour later at 6:35am.

 

Here’s how you can use this information to your advantage.  When the moon is Void Of Course, it’s like it has reached the end of one set of opportunities and is getting ready for the next set of ideas to show up. It’s a period of inactivity and quietness…like nap time. If you have ever been disturbed during a much needed nap with a question or request, you may ignore it, pretend to acknowledge it but not act on it,  or you may only half hear it and do something different than what was asked of you.

 

This is a time to let the moon have it’s nap and not begin anything new nor ask any questions that you need answered. If you’ve got things you want to accomplish it can be frustrating to wait for the moon to wake up. Imagine those weeks when the moon takes a nap in the middle of your day and doesn’t wake up until the next evening. To be slowed down when you are full of new ideas and insights can cause you to lose your momentum and mojo. That’s why this week is so exciting as you are likely to be sleeping during these void of course times.

 

So take advantage of it the moon supporting you in so many ways and times this week and make this your new beginning.

 

If you would like to know more about using the moon’s energies to create new beginnings, consider adding a crystal singing bowl practice to your day. Check the shop for the best one for you.

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Are You A Giver? How Giving Can Be Used For Creation.

Heart Giving

I was listening to the radio today and the host said that if he won $100,000 he would give most of it away because some people didn’t even have enough money to turn on the heat. He talked about giving to others who had less than he did. That led to an awkward moment when his co-host said he would probably buy a Corvette with the money.

 

What would you do with the money? And what could you create in the world with what you already have?

 

Since today is Thanksgiving in the USA and many of my friends are giving thanks, it made me reflect on the joys of giving and whether or not giving something of mine to someone else was the best way to express gratitude and create change.  I realized that I didn’t need to win a large sum of money to give something valuable right now. And I realized that I did not have to leave myself short or overworked or overwhelmed to give something now.

If I win money (to use the example that spurred these thoughts) and I give it to someone else who has less than I do, then I am not really creating MORE with the money, I am just transferring it from one person to another. I do have heat, so while I am sure the person who could now turn on their heat too would appreciate it, I realized there was so much more that could be accomplished with what I’d like to call ‘generative giving’.

 

Does giving money to someone create more in the world or does it just move the money from one place to another? What would create more?

 

I spent a bit of time researching the answer because I wondered if there were places creating big changes that could benefit from my giving and expand and exponentialize it instead of just allowing money to go from one set of hands to another with no real or lasting change being created.

 

For example  in London England they are using the body heat that is trapped in subways to heat 500 homes as part of the CELSIUS Project.  Imagine how much change we could create with many people donating small amounts of money to companies that were developing the technologies needed to harvest free sources of heat and electricity?

I also found a project on Kickstarter called “Rocket Mass Stoves” that shows you how to make your own stove for $3 and then heat your home for 1/10th the price of natural gas and 1/10th the CO2 emissions. Donations began at $1 and over $100,000 was raised so that professional DVDs could be created to share this information more easily with more people.

 

Can you see how we can use a little bit of money to help create something that makes life better and healthier or more affordable for everyone?

 

What if you do not have a dollar to help fund a campaign? Do you know what else grows exponentially with little effort and time? Kindness. With every word we speak and with every action we take and every bit of information we post online we have the opportunity to spread more kindness in the world. We also can take away some kindness by adding to the fear, the anger or the judgement that is so easily given. In giving your opinion, are you adding kindness or taking away from the kindness?

 

What are you giving to the world today?  Would you be willing to tune into what you are creating and to see the butterfly effect of your thoughts, words, actions and your giving?

It doesn’t take much, and it doesn’t even take money, but it does take some awareness to make a new choice and to give in a new way. Will you choose it today?

Do Flowers Deserve Abundance?

Flowers showing us how to be abundant

As part of an abundance challenge I joined, I was presented with an affirmation that said “I deserve to live an abundant life”. There was something about the affirmation that felt limiting to me so I started to ask some questions to see if I could find it.

What if we take deserving out of the equation?

How often do we feel like we do not deserve more than what we have?

Or we think – shouldn’t we just be grateful for what we do have because wanting more would make us greedy?

 

 

Could these thoughts could keep us from having all that we desire?

 

I’ve been going for daily walks this month and I notice the abundance all around me in nature. I started to think about  abundance and the judgement that can surround having all that we desire.

Do flowers deserve to have dozens or hundreds of petals?

Do they have to show off so much?

Do trees deserve to have hundreds or thousands of leaves each?

Shouldn’t they save some for the other trees?

Does the beach deserve millions or billions or more grains of sand?

Isn’t that selfish – what if there is none left for the desert?

Does a field deserve to be filled with endless blades of grass?

How much green does one field really need?

Flowers showing us how to be abundant

 

Can you begin to see how we limit our abundane with those kinds of silly thoughts that I can only assume nature never thinks about itself? Flowers may not deserving of abundance; they simply ARE abundant and they know it.

They don’t push out one petal and say, Ah that’s enough, I don’t deserve more. Or I don’t deserve the same abundance as the other flowers do – I’m not worthy. Of course they don’t say that. They ‘say’ I AM abundance and I will grow as many petals as I want, I am unstoppably abundant! Well they maybe don’t say it. When you are something you don’t have to go around telling people about it; it’s just obvious.

What would it take for us to embrace the abundance that nature is showing us that we can have and that we BE? Let’s take the word deserve out of the equation and know that we are abundant and we have abundance and we can claim it without shame, guilt or fear.

How can you be more like these flowers today? What do you know that you are that you haven’t been sharing? Is it time to blossom?

 

photo by GrimmRuki at DeviantArt.com

Do Your Words Create Your World?

Anything is possible

Have you ever looked up the definition of the words you use repeatedly? This year I began studying the etymology (aka origin) of some of my favourite words. The meaning of words can change over time so I think it’s important to really understand how the word was originally used so you can be aware of the energy you are creating when you speak the word.

The best example that I have is the word PASSION. It’s been my favourite word for years, as I love people who are passionate about their lives.  It makes me smile when the passion shines through their face and in their voice and in the gifts they share with the world.  Recently someone commented about the ‘passion-burnout’ cycle and how they’ve removed the word from their vocabulary. Out of curiousity, I looked it up.

 

Here are the original meanings as quoted from EtymologyOnline.com:   late 12c., “sufferings of Christ on the Cross,” from Old French passion “Christ’s passion, physical suffering” (10c.), from Late Latin passionem (nominative passio) “suffering, enduring,” from past participle stem of Latin pati “to suffer, endure,” possibly from PIE root *pe(i)- “to hurt” (cognates: Sanskrit pijati “reviles, scorns,” Greek pema “suffering, misery, woe,” Old English feond “enemy, devil,” Gothic faian “to blame”).

Sense extended to sufferings of martyrs, and suffering generally, by early 13c.; meaning “strong emotion, desire” is attested from late 14c., from Late Latin use of passio to render Greek pathos. Replaced Old English þolung (used in glosses to render Latin passio), literally “suffering,” from þolian (v.) “to endure.”

 

WHOA!! And I have been saying how passionate I am about some things and how much I love seeing passion in others. Words have power. Our voice, our breath, our intention adds even more power to them. After learning about the original meaning, I’ve been choosing new words for the things I love!

One way to choose language that supports you and others is to be conscious of what you say after the words I AM. Those words can shape who you are and who you are becoming.  Choose language that is expansive and without limits and full of confidence and see what changes in your life.

Other words to be cautious of include: try, should, and want.

Instead of trying, you can choose to do something or to not do it and if you choose it, commit to it and demand it of yourself.

The word should can make us feel guilty about something we aren’t doing or are doing. Again, use words that show you have a real choice. Or focus on the outcome to help you choose. Instead of saying “I should put away the laundry” you can say to yourself “I love it when all my clothes are clean and put away neatly because my room feels uncluttered and tidy.” The way you feel when it is done can be used for encouragement until what you ‘should’ do is your new normal.

The word want surprised me too when I learned of it’s etymology. It used to mean lack. So if you are wanting something, it means you are lacking it. That wanting will continue when you use language that contains the energy of lack.

What words do you use often in your life that may be limiting you? Pay attention to your words and create something new and magical in your life. Would you like to choose that?

 

5 Ways To Create More Possibilities In Your Life

Believe Stone

These five tips are meant to guide you towards releasing stress and to gain trust that things will be okay.

1.  Instead of labeling things around you as good or bad, be open to what is going on around you and to seeing the magic in them.  If you see things as ‘interesting’ instead of good or bad you will start to see more synchronicity and flow in your life.

 

2.  See the world as if everything is new to you.  Be full of wonder and curiousity.  Try not to have conclusions about how things work and you will perceive new things and see them in a new way too.

 

3.  If something isn’t going your way, take a few breaths and stay out of the twisted thinking that things never work out for you or that life is hard.  These are judgements you’ve made.  [Tweet “What if you could begin to change things by not judging them?”]  Take a step back ask yourself “What is right about this that I’m not seeing?”

 

4. Don’t wait for life to be perfect before you enjoy it.  If you keep putting off your happiness until ‘something’ else happens, you’ll always be waiting.  Commit to what you want now instead.  And trust that you are being helped and that life is happening for you, not to you.

 

5. As Bobby McFerrin put it, and as Pharrell Williams has echoed, Don’t worry, Be happy. Worry, like guilt, just makes us feel really icky. How often does that worse case scenario actually happen? This is called a What If ‘down’ thinking because you are assuming the worst will happen and you play it out in your head until the stress is unbearable. Why not try a What If ‘up’?  What if things turn out even better than you expect?  What is the BEST case scenario? Try asking those kinds of questions and feel the difference it can make in your life today.

Kintsugi – Proof That Our ‘Flaws’ Make us Unique and Awesome?

Kintsugi Method

A form of Japanese pottery called Kintsugi,  uses gold dust to repair broken pottery.  Often the finished piece has more character and charm when attention is given to the flaws.  I like this because it shows us that our flaws actually created our unique beauty.  Instead of listening to society’s idea of how we should look, what if we could embrace our uniqueness instead?

I’d like to offer you 5 simple ways to celebrate your imperfections and appreciate your own unique beauty.

 

1) First, stop calling them imperfections or flaws.  Your words have a lot of power. Instead call them your charming qualities or quirks. Besides how boring would we be if we were all exactly the same? Your uniqueness is a gift and it’s more of a gift when you can appreciate it too.

2) Don’t worry about what others think about you.  Once you realize that both compliments and negative comments are judgements, it is easier to realize that others’ opinions are ever changing and shouldn’t be what we base our self worth on.

3)  I love this advice from Brene Brown. Go to bed at night thinking “Yes, I am sometimes afraid, but I am also brave.    And, yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging.

4)  Change your focus to things that you are grateful for instead.  When you realize all the the good things in your life that you have, it’s easier to see that your flaws don’t have to negatively impact your life.

5)  My favourite….turn it into a little research project. Find examples online of people  who have used what you consider to be a flaw and have turned it into a positive in their lives.

 

One last thought. I love these lines from Leonard Cohen’s song Anthem.

Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in.